So my friend sent me this today after I teased his newly established relationship. At first I was going to see it as rhetorical, but it made me wonder; When is the right time to truly settle down?
Lately my neighboring friends have been saying ‘oh I’m settled down now, no more partying around’ etc. And for a phase last year I also had that thought in my head, that I was ready to stay with this girl I thought fit the ‘role’. But then you wonder, what is settling down to you? Is it marrying a girl, being committed to a relationship fully, or maturing from a boy to man and understanding the meaning of love.
It’s actually none of the above; to settle down is to give up on the search. Most of us are blinded by this as marriage, but it’s the phase when our function to desire more ceases, because the utmost desired has been discovered.
I’m certainly not ready to settle down, not at this age at least. And when I do, I’ll know never to look left or right for something better.